Who was Valentino?

We live in a world of paradox…

To be or not to be a Valentine… ?

Question: Who was Valentino?

Answer: A wild passionate (apparently pretty sociopathic) Italian lover with no qualms’ about home wrecking or the deflowering of virgins… wow…so that’s who I want to be nominated by on Valentines Day?
I don’t think so…

In this new millennium we have the power to research the origin of ideas and then observe their evolution within our culture.

As I observe the changes with regard to Valentine’s Day, it is now the celebration where we have the power to make someone else in our life feel valued… or perhaps we have the courage to validate and value ourselves .

Think for a moment about the word Valentine.
Within it the first syllable ‘Val’….  connects this word  ‘Valentine’ to other words such as Value, Validate, Valiant, they are all words that infer the quality of  ‘worth’.

Mostly we come from an entrenched culture that forces people into boxes.
Boxes for their minds, (public schools) other boxes for their bodies (fashion) and others still for their spirit (organized religion by any name) all these boxes are ways we deal with the infinite possibilities and overwhelming challenges we face daily.

Within the context of this violently competitive world culture we are trying desperately to find ourselves, our self worth, our purpose… or at the very least some form of meaning and ‘value’ inherent in our human life and earthly love.

The point many of us miss in our flurry for success and ‘validation’ in the eyes of others is that there is no force on earth more powerful than love. And no love more important than the unconditional love of the ‘self’.’

Once we are passionately in love with ourselves it is easy to love others because we are already filled up with love that indeed begins to overflow onto others and into our environment.

Am I talking about ego-maniacs? Not at all. There is a big difference between self love and self aggrandizement… we all know people like that. People who spend their time convincing the world around them that they are so great in an effort to cover up their insecurity; and perhaps convince themselves.

These people have little to show for all their hot air and do not like scrutiny.  When push comes to shove they are empty inside and afraid to be truly heard or seen for fear of the judgment of others.

When we really love ourselves we take time for good rest, we feed our bodies good food, we exercise and breathe with confidence. In so doing we are giving our brain the best fuel for positive, creative thinking processes and dismissing the danger of imbalance.

Love crosses all boundaries, overcomes all obstacles and melts away all disillusionment… if we have the grace and the courage to protect our “power to love” and sustain our relationship with the loving part of ourselves we will ultimately succeed no matter what the obstacles are because we are aligning with Divine Intent Super OMG Special Divine Order; which is indeed a manifestation of Divine Love in action.

As we enter the time known for love I wish each of you a very happy Valentines Day filled with loving surprises and nurturing experiences. May the love from our own hearts shine out into the world and be a healing force upon the earth. Blessings from Shankari the Alchemist Hawaii feb 2009.

4 thoughts on “Who was Valentino?”

  1. Dear Shankari, thank you for your email, especially on that day where a lot of us feel the pressure,” am i loved? am i love enough?” “Will he or she wish me a happy valentines?, do they care?”, ” am i the chosen one?” . thank you for shinning light for many of us in the right direction of self love. As the love that comes from the self love is the most precious gift we have to give to the other, to the world, to ourselves.
    ~ Gosha

  2. I agree with what you say about the importance of self love and this is an important message, but…are you saying that Valentino is the origin of the Valentine’s Day we celebrate today?

    I’m sure you know it’s much older than that, according to Wikipedia, the day was originally a pagan festival that was renamed after two Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

    Of course, as you say, everything evolves and today the original meaning has been lost (if it even indeed had a distinct “meaning”) and now means many different things depending on your outlook: romantic love, friendship, loneliness, self love, consumerism.

  3. Shankari

    I do not leave a last name because it is connected to someone to whom I no longer belong, not my fear of you knowing it.

    I treasure this message it speaks to my soul, I get it.

    It would only be my hope that we will have the opportunity to meet in the future.

    May you continue to live in the light of GOD.

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